Dr. Frank's What's-it

Frank,
I love and hate you at the same time. I love that you make me think and I hate that when I do so it usually points out another one of my many inadequacies.

I know I'll continue to misues it but here is a simple explanation of the correct usage of the words in qustion:
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If you can replace a word with "he" or "she," then it is the subject of the sentence and you should use "who." If you can replace the word with "him" or "her," it is the object and you should use "whom."

The who/whom debate is a topic with respect to which everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

any particular reason my post was removed? it said, "So I really like The Whom? Good to know" - I don't know why that would be deleted. It was a joke, like... The Who is the object in that phrase, so techincally it should be The Whom. Ha? Was that offensive somehow?

You mean "at which what was her getting."

Zaphod,

I think you have the who/whom explanation right, although I think a lot of the problems arise in relative clauses in which the clause as a whole is the object of the main verb in a sentence, but the relative pronoun is the subject of the verb in the clause. Example: "I really hate whoever keeps pointing out my misuse of the word 'whom'." People are often tempted to say "whomever" because "hate" takes a direct object, and in fact you would say, "I really hate him," not, "I really hate he." But in this instance it's the clause as a whole (everything from "whoever" to "'whom'") that is the object of "hate," and the case of the relative pronoun ("whoever") is determined by its relationship to the verb in the clause ("keeps"). Since the pronoun is the subject of the verb "keeps" the pronoun should be "whoever," not "whomever." That is, you would say "He keeps pointing out," not, "Him keeps pointing out."

There, doesn't that help clear everything up?